Forgive the Unrepentant Believer?
Luke 17:1-4
People often ask me about forgiveness and repentance. They have questions about what to do when a sinful brother receives a rebuke about sinful behavior, but completely ignores that rebuke and continues in sin. What do you do with that brother?
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Basic, Complete Forgiveness
Let me start with the basics. We know that God will never ignore the guilt of sinners, but He remains full of compassion, grace and lovingkindness (Exodus 34:6-7; Romans 6:23).
and He Himself bore our sins in His body on the cross, so that we might die to sin and live to righteousness; for by His wounds you were healed.
1 Peter 2:24
Jesus died upon the cross and “He Himself bore our sins in His body on the cross, so that we might die to sin and live to righteousness . . . ” (1 Peter 2:24). As believers, we also know that all of our sins were laid upon Jesus, meaning that our past sins, our present sins, and our future sins were all covered by the blood of Jesus Christ.
By this will we have been sanctified through the offering of the body of Jesus Christ once for all.
Hebrews 10:10
Jesus died once for all so that we are sanctified through the offering of His body (Hebrews 10:10). In fact, Jesus has perfected for all time those who are sanctified (Hebrews 10:14). From these passages we can now see that all the condemnation we deserved for our sins was laid upon Jesus Christ, so that now the believer has no condemnation from God (Romans 8:1). Every believer has peace with God, having been justified by faith alone (Romans 5:1). Jesus suffered the death penalty of sin for us, and also propitiated the anger of God, meaning that Jesus appeased the wrath of God directed at our sins. Therefore, my salvation rests totally upon my faith that Jesus died for all of my sins, and God has already forgiven me of all my sins. Every believer has eternal life as a free gift from Jesus Christ (Romans 6:23), and every sin past, present and future has already been forgiven and covered by the blood of Jesus Christ.
and put on the new self, which in the likeness of God has been created in righteousness and holiness of the truth.
Ephesians 4:24
Jesus commands every believer to stand before Him clothed with “the new self, which in the likeness of God has been created in righteousness and holiness of the truth” (Ephesians 4:24). In His eyes, every believer wears those clothes daily. He commands us to excel still more. In Christ, we have been sanctified once and for all, which means we have been made holy, called saints, and set apart for God’s own use (Hebrews 10:10). Therefore, we may happily conclude that every believer has been forgiven by God for all sins. From the standpoint of salvation, all of the believer’s sins remain forever under the atoning blood of Christ. God has forgiven every sinner who turns to Jesus by faith alone, believing that Christ died for my sins, once and for all. Now let us consider a few verses that speak to the question of sinful behavior after salvation.
If we say that we have no sin, we are deceiving ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar and His word is not in us.
1 John 1:8-10
Every believer should recall that they sin. Indeed, sin may deceive believers: “If we say that we have no sin, we are deceiving ourselves and the truth is not in us” (1 John 1:8). This verse emphasizes that sin exists in the life of every believer, even those who walk in the light mentioned in 1 John 1:5-7. When we sin as believers, we must confess our sins: “If we confess our sins, God is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:9). Please recall that all our sins were laid upon Jesus at the cross, and salvation does not rest upon our continuous confession of sin. Instead, we must remember that as we walk in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus cleanses us from all sin (1 John 1:7). Walking in the light of Jesus does not mean we have no sin, but rather that the blood of Jesus cleanses us from all sin, so that we may have fellowship with other believers and have a close walk with God in the light. Our confession of sin does not bring us back to salvation, because we do not lose eternal life by sinning. We lose our sense of walking in the light and our sin interferes with our fellowship with other believers. I often illustrate this principle with a pair of dirty hands. When I work on my car, I often cover my hands in very black grease from the car. Of course, I am always the child of my earthly father, no matter how black my hands get. The dirt on my hands remains an entirely separate matter from my permanent relationship to my father. Likewise, I will always be the spiritual child of my heavenly Father, because Jesus died for my sins, and I have been adopted into the family of Jesus Christ (1 John 3:1; Galatians 4:6). My hands may get dirty with sin, but God will always be my heavenly Father. With all these concepts in mind, now let us turn to the sins of others around us.
He said to His disciples, “It is inevitable that stumbling blocks come, but woe to him through whom they come! It would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck and he were thrown into the sea, than that he would cause one of these little ones to stumble. Be on your guard! If your brother sins, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him. And if he sins against you seven times a day, and returns to you seven times, saying, ‘I repent,’ forgive him.”
Luke 17:1-4
In Luke 17:1-4, Jesus taught His disciples about repentance and forgiveness. He described the enormous evil of causing little ones to stumble (Luke 17:1-2). In this context, Jesus indicated that even a person making little ones stumble must be rebuked, and upon repentance, forgiven. Jesus then turned to the problem of brothers sinning against brothers. When a brother sins against me, I must rebuke my brother. Jesus does not allow me to ignore the sinful behavior of my brother, and if he repents, forgive him (Luke 17:3). Jesus commanded me to forgive my brother when he seeks repentance as a result of the rebuke I delivered to him. Please keep two things in mind here. First, as we have seen above, my brother who sins will always go to heaven, because God has already forgiven a believer for all sins–even if they do not listen to my rebuke and repent. Salvation never rests upon daily repentance. Salvation rests upon saving repentance producing saving faith in the work of Jesus Christ on the cross and His resurrection from the dead, all according to the Scriptures (1 Corinthians 15:1-4). Once saved, always saved. Second, in Luke 17:1-4, repentance by my brother has nothing to do with salvation, but everything to do with my forgiveness directed to my brother. It also has to do with my interest in helping my brother escape from persistent sin by rebuking him repeatedly for sin. Each time he sins before me, I have a duty to rebuke him, even if he says “I repent” seven times in a day (Luke 17:4). Jesus teaches us that each of us has a duty to help our brothers to seek repentance resulting from brotherly rebukes. We should not lose patience with our brothers. We must always be ready to forgive them each time they repent and seek to restore the relationship with us. Let me mention two other matters here. Jesus tells the disciples that they must have faith to implement this complete forgiveness (Luke 17:5-6). Furthermore, the disciples should not expect a special reward for forgiving people who repent, because they are only performing the commandments of God to forgive just as God has forgiven them (Luke 17:7-10). Well, what about the sinful brother who refuses to repent after being rebuked?
For if you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions.
Matthew 6:14-15
Jesus taught that we must all forgive others for their transgressions (Matthew 6:14, page 1509). If we fail to forgive others, then our heavenly Father will not forgive us. These blunt words remind us that we must forgive everyone who transgresses against us, even if they do not repent and seek forgiveness from us. As believers, we have been forgiven by God. If we do not extend that same kind of forgiveness to other people, then we sin against God, and our salvation is not real. Without forgiveness flowing out of our hearts, we must realize that God has not forgiven us (Matthew 6:15). The true believer knows that God’s forgiveness lives within the believer, and flows out to everyone, whether or not they ask for our forgiveness. Please recall the words of Jesus upon the cross: “Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing.” (Luke 23:34). Jesus perfectly modeled this forgiveness that God demands in us.
If we must forgive everyone, then why did Jesus talk about forgiving seven times a day, and then only after they repent and seek forgiveness (Luke 17:1-4)? Please recall that Jesus commanded us to forgive under all circumstances, even if the repentance does not seem real because they sin all day long and apparently repeat the sin. Jesus never said in that passage that we do not forgive if they do not repent. We know from Matthew 6:14-15 that we have no option but to forgive everyone whether they repent or not.
So, if I must forgive with or without their repentance, then why do I rebuke them at all? Here we move on to a very important issue. We rebuke brothers so that they may repent and turn away from sin. We do not condition our forgiveness upon their repentance. We are going to forgive them under all circumstances, because we know that God has already forgiven them of all their sins. The point here centers upon repentance that restores our fellowship with them. We do not ignore their sin, and just forgive them without a word. Let us consider a passage about how we restore a sinner.
Brethren, even if anyone is caught in any trespass, you who are spiritual, restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness; each one looking to yourself, so that you too will not be tempted. Bear one another’s burdens, and thereby fulfill the law of Christ. For if anyone thinks he is something when he is nothing, he deceives himself. But each one must examine his own work, and then he will have reason for boasting in regard to himself alone, and not in regard to another. For each one will bear his own load.
Galatians 6:1-5
In Galatians 6:1-5, Jesus talks with us about restoring people caught in a trespass. This passage requires that you first master walking in the Holy Spirit and bearing the fruit of the Holy Spirit in your life (Galatians 5:16-24). Furthermore, you must also walk in the Spirit to avoid being boastful, challenging one another, and envying one another (Galatians 5:26). Only the spiritual believers, walking in the Holy Spirit, will be in a position to restore another believer caught in any trespass (Galatians 6:1). This restoration must be done in gentleness, with the spiritual believer looking to himself so that he will not be tempted. Well, how do we do this restoration?
First, the spiritual man will start by bearing the burden of the other believer (Galatians 6:2). If you thought you would administer a quick rebuke and then exit, think again. Jesus demands that we bear the burden weighing down the transgressor. People often sin because the burdens weigh them down. They do not find rest in Jesus (Matthew 11:28-30). You must make a sincere effort to help the sinful brother bear the burden and strain. Notice the verse does not specify what you must do to bear the burden, because it will vary by the burden and the person. We do know that Jesus will provide rest, and His burden is light.
Second, we must not think we are something for helping the transgressor, and so deceive ourselves when we are actually nothing (Galatians 6:3). If we puff up with pride and arrogance, we will be of no value in restoring the transgressor. Puffed up remarks include words like: “I am the spiritual man here to relieve your transgressions.” Instead, we come along side the transgressor and seek to bear the burden with them, and never draw glory to ourselves.
Third, we must each examine our own work (Galatians 6:4). I help to restore the transgressor by encouraging him to examine his own work. As believers, we will always find something that God has done in our lives that we should boast about. This self examination also requires us to focus upon the positive and wonderful works that God has done in the transgressor’s life. I will not examine his work, but my own. I will not live in boasting about how great I am. That will achieve nothing when it comes to restoring my brother caught in transgression. It will only make it worse. Examination of our works leads to restoration and repentance, and also praise and worship to God for His work in all our lives, even if we transgress. During this process of restoration, we should never compare ourselves as spiritual to the transgressor who is sinful. Keep in mind the temptation that caused my brother to sin may also cause me to transgress. A focus upon my own works (not emotions) will promote restoration. Let me highlight here a common problem. If you become consumed with wringing repentance from your sinful brother, then you have violated this “examine your own works” principle. When we become obsessed with our sinful brother’s transgression, we violate this command to look first and foremost to our own examination of our own works. Rebukes come only from the Word of God, and never from our own personal opinions. We promote proper application of the Word of God by examining our works in light of the Word of God (Psalm 119:11). God performs the rebuke of the arrogant and cursed (Psalm 119:21). He uses believers to encourage, confront and rebuke other believers, with a view toward winning the brother (Matthew 18:15).
Fourth, each one of us will bear his own load (Galatians 6:5). While the spiritual brother helps bear the burden, we must each accept full spiritual responsibility for bearing our load before God. Ultimately, we stand before God, and we must learn to bear the load He places upon us. This sense of personal responsibility ultimately leads us to the proper understanding and action of what it means to carry our own load. No one else can do that for us.
Above all, keep fervent in your love for another, because love covers a multitude of sins.
1 Peter 4:8
So, in summary, spiritual brothers restore transgressors in gentleness, bearing the load, with a humble attitude, encouraging examination of our own works, and accepting personal spiritual responsibility for our own works. We cannot ignore our duty to be spiritual and restore our sinful brothers. Yet, even if our sinful brother spurns our rebukes and the restoration by spiritual men, our brother will always be our brother, and God commands us to forgive him. Because the end is near, we must keep fervent in prayer. As we pray, love covers a multitude of sins (1 Peter 4:8), and love prompts us to act always according the will of God, for no one can love except those who have been born of God and know God, for God is love (1 John 4:7-8).