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Studies │ Remarriage after Divorce

Matthew 19:5, Page 1534

“and said, “FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH’?”

1.3 Answer: God Joins a Man to His Wife in Marriage.

Jesus built further upon the divine plan of male and female creation. He again quoted the Old Testament, citing Genesis 2:24, page 4. Jesus meant that the rules for marriage, divorce and remarriage rest upon the creation of male and female. They go all the way back to Genesis. Based upon creation, Jesus highlighted several aspects of marriage. First, Jesus taught that marriage involves separation. Second, the man separates from his mother and father to be joined1The Greek phrase here for “to be joined” (“κολληθήσεται“–notice the passive voice, indicating that God joins husband and wife, and not man–compare also the Hebrew term for joined (“דָבַק”) referring again to God joining the male and female) indicates that God has a divine plan for a male and female to join together in a permanent bond forged by God. to his wife. Third, having been joined together, the husband and wife become one flesh 2The Hebrew phrase here for “become one flesh”  (“וְהָיוּ לְבָשָׂר אֶחָד) and the Greek phrase “and the two will become one flesh” (“καὶ ἔσονται οἱ δύο εἰς σάρκα μίαν”) both speak of the joining of male and female in marriage to become one flesh. God joins two people to make one new flesh. So, to summarize, Jesus taught that God created marriage in the Garden of Eden, by making humans as males and females, each in the image of God. Not only did God craft males to be physically different from females, but He designed them for Him to join them together to make one flesh. God designed, created, and joined people in marriage. Males and females fit perfectly together when God joins them together in marriage. They become one flesh.

Matthew 19:6, Page 1534

“So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”

1.4  Answer: God Said They Are No Longer Two, But One Flesh.

Jesus again built upon the theology of marriage. God created one male for God to join to one female in marriage, so that the two humans would become one flesh. So, if you have followed Jesus, He just explained that God made one male and one female to join together as one flesh in marriage. Jesus emphasized that God joins people in marriage, and the product is each person enjoys a fleshly unity with the other person. In a New Testament sense, consider that at the moment Jesus saved you by faith alone, your body became the temple of the Holy Spirit, where He lives inside your body. 3In 1 Corinthians 6:15, page 1788, the Holy Spirit wrote: “Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take away the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? May it never be!” In this verse, Jesus taught us that our physical bodies have spiritual qualities called “members.” So, as a believer, I am a member of the Body of Christ. Just like I am joined to Christ by faith, I can become a member of a prostitute if I have sex with a prostitute. I should always remember that by faith I am a member of the Body of Christ, and belong solely to Christ. Notice that God wants us to know about the spiritual aspects of sex and how we become members of sinful people when we have sex with them. As a believer, I must remain conscious that the very presence of our holy God lives within me, all day, every day, to the glory of God. While the Holy Spirit dwells within the individual believer, in another sense the Holy Spirit now indwells the couple (corporate unity) joined by God in marriage. Consider the consequences described by Paul that even a believer becomes one flesh with a harlot when they have sex. 4In 1 Corinthians 6:16, page 1788, Paul warned: “Or do you not know that the one who joins himself to a prostitute is one body with her? For He says, “THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH.” Clearly then Paul does not refer to the offspring as one flesh produced by the sexual union, but rather something spiritual happens to the believer when he has sex with a prostitute. God created a special relationship for sex. He named that special relationship marriage. When you ignore God’s plan that sexual activity joins two people as one flesh, then you endanger your spiritual walk with God. In 1 Corinthians 6:17, page 1788, Paul described the spiritual joy of having a spiritual union with Christ Jesus, not in a sexual sense, but in the sense of being spiritually joined with Him. So, let us take a look also this concept of “join” as used in the New Testament. First, we should learn that God revealed a complete, final union with the term “joined together.” 5The Greek term for “joined together” (“συνέζευξεν“–aorist, active, indicative) only occurs here and in the parallel passage in Mark 10:9, page 1577, on marriage and divorce. Notice in the Mark 10:9, page 1577, passage, Jesus answered the first question found in Matthew 19:3, page 1534. Jesus did not focus upon the second question in Matthew 19:7, page 1534, concerning the Mosaic Law and divorce. Jesus, however, pre-empted that question by His response to the first question in Mark 10:5, page 1577: “Because of your hardness of heart he [Moses] wrote you this commandment.” Notice that Jesus always taught that the serious sin of hardness of heart always underlies divorce for any reason. Often, the believer continues to bear a grudge against an unfaithful spouse, that results in bitterness and smoldering anger. When that smoke and bitterness accumulate, without confession and spiritual forgiveness, the desire for divorce arises from the hard heart. So you see that Jesus linked that problem of unforegiveness and divorce to the spiritual hardness of heart. According to Jesus, no one  seeks a divorce unless they have a hard heart. Not every hard heart arises from infidelity. In some cases, the spouse simply may have lost interest in the marriage, found someone else, or longed for money another spouse would provide. Many reasons may account for the hardness of heart. But all of those reasons display the same attitude toward the marriage bond God used to join the man and the woman. The hardness of heart finds its specific target in disdaining the work of God in creating and sustaining the marriage. In some cases, the infidelity of the first spouse produces a more profound and long-lasting sin of bitterness and hardness of heart in the other spouse, who was wronged by infidelity. Sexual sin has profound effects in the marriage, and may lead to such unforegiveness in the spouse that he/she files for divorce. Yet, by filing for divorce, that spouse yields to sin flowing from a hard heart. Consider Matthew 6:14-15, page 1509: “For it you forgive others, then your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions.” Furthermore, remember Matthew 18:21-22, page 1533: “Then Peter came and said to Him, ‘Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? up to seven times?’ Jesus said to him, ‘I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy time seven.”” Second, we see that God created marriage as the only means for one male to be joined to one female. Third, this sexual union producing one flesh also occurs by having sex with a prostitute. Therefore, we see that our fleshly sexual unions have direct spiritual consequences in our lives. The Bible refutes any notion that sex can be frequent and casual, with many partners. God designed marriage to be the sole bond producing one holy flesh before God. Sex outside marriage pollutes the believer by becoming one flesh with an immoral person. Immorality always damages spirituality.

 

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1. The Greek phrase here for “to be joined” (“κολληθήσεται“–notice the passive voice, indicating that God joins husband and wife, and not man–compare also the Hebrew term for joined (“דָבַק”) referring again to God joining the male and female) indicates that God has a divine plan for a male and female to join together in a permanent bond forged by God.
2. The Hebrew phrase here for “become one flesh”  (“וְהָיוּ לְבָשָׂר אֶחָד) and the Greek phrase “and the two will become one flesh” (“καὶ ἔσονται οἱ δύο εἰς σάρκα μίαν”) both speak of the joining of male and female in marriage to become one flesh. God joins two people to make one new flesh.
3. In 1 Corinthians 6:15, page 1788, the Holy Spirit wrote: “Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take away the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? May it never be!” In this verse, Jesus taught us that our physical bodies have spiritual qualities called “members.” So, as a believer, I am a member of the Body of Christ. Just like I am joined to Christ by faith, I can become a member of a prostitute if I have sex with a prostitute. I should always remember that by faith I am a member of the Body of Christ, and belong solely to Christ. Notice that God wants us to know about the spiritual aspects of sex and how we become members of sinful people when we have sex with them. As a believer, I must remain conscious that the very presence of our holy God lives within me, all day, every day, to the glory of God.
4. In 1 Corinthians 6:16, page 1788, Paul warned: “Or do you not know that the one who joins himself to a prostitute is one body with her? For He says, “THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH.” Clearly then Paul does not refer to the offspring as one flesh produced by the sexual union, but rather something spiritual happens to the believer when he has sex with a prostitute. God created a special relationship for sex. He named that special relationship marriage. When you ignore God’s plan that sexual activity joins two people as one flesh, then you endanger your spiritual walk with God. In 1 Corinthians 6:17, page 1788, Paul described the spiritual joy of having a spiritual union with Christ Jesus, not in a sexual sense, but in the sense of being spiritually joined with Him.
5. The Greek term for “joined together” (“συνέζευξεν“–aorist, active, indicative) only occurs here and in the parallel passage in Mark 10:9, page 1577, on marriage and divorce. Notice in the Mark 10:9, page 1577, passage, Jesus answered the first question found in Matthew 19:3, page 1534. Jesus did not focus upon the second question in Matthew 19:7, page 1534, concerning the Mosaic Law and divorce. Jesus, however, pre-empted that question by His response to the first question in Mark 10:5, page 1577: “Because of your hardness of heart he [Moses] wrote you this commandment.” Notice that Jesus always taught that the serious sin of hardness of heart always underlies divorce for any reason. Often, the believer continues to bear a grudge against an unfaithful spouse, that results in bitterness and smoldering anger. When that smoke and bitterness accumulate, without confession and spiritual forgiveness, the desire for divorce arises from the hard heart. So you see that Jesus linked that problem of unforegiveness and divorce to the spiritual hardness of heart. According to Jesus, no one  seeks a divorce unless they have a hard heart. Not every hard heart arises from infidelity. In some cases, the spouse simply may have lost interest in the marriage, found someone else, or longed for money another spouse would provide. Many reasons may account for the hardness of heart. But all of those reasons display the same attitude toward the marriage bond God used to join the man and the woman. The hardness of heart finds its specific target in disdaining the work of God in creating and sustaining the marriage. In some cases, the infidelity of the first spouse produces a more profound and long-lasting sin of bitterness and hardness of heart in the other spouse, who was wronged by infidelity. Sexual sin has profound effects in the marriage, and may lead to such unforegiveness in the spouse that he/she files for divorce. Yet, by filing for divorce, that spouse yields to sin flowing from a hard heart. Consider Matthew 6:14-15, page 1509: “For it you forgive others, then your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions.” Furthermore, remember Matthew 18:21-22, page 1533: “Then Peter came and said to Him, ‘Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? up to seven times?’ Jesus said to him, ‘I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy time seven.””